Helping Frustrated Renters Become HAPPY Homeowners

An eerie feeling started to come over me!
 
Sunday evening. It’s February. It’s dark. I’ve just left Merritt. The road is clear, the drive pleasant as we head south onto the Coquihalla. That’s normal for the first twenty minutes, or so. But those who know this road, know how fast things can change after you cross the valley and start climbing Larson Hill.
 
And so they did.
 
The snow started, light at first, then heavier. Then it started accumulating on the road. Then it was down to one clear lane that the truckers had favoured. Luckily, there was not much traffic on this night–a few truckers, and fewer others. I slowed down, and then slowed down some more and, despite having my 4wd locked in, ended up driving extremely cautiously, more cautiously than almost all the other traffic.

           

They’d probably never rolled a vehicle on this stretch before . . . on a dark Sunday night . . . in February.
 
You see, three years ago, on a Sunday evening in February, I had travelled this same stretch of road. It had been clear and dry (I thought). Then suddenly, near the old toll booth location, my SUV had started swerving and, before I knew it, had rolled and landed back on its wheels, still running. I was unhurt, but rather shaken up. As the completely battered vehicle was still driveable, I’d started driving again towards Hope. About a kilometer further, the snow started coming down, then quickly increased its ferocity as I slowed to 40, then 30 km/h. I eventually made it safely to Hope, but it was one of the most harrowing experiences of my life! (The vehicle was a total write-off!)
 
That is clearly why I was so cautious on this Sunday night, more cautious than most of the traffic around me.
 
Now, I’ve driven this stretch numerous times since my earlier experience, even in winter, and even when conditions were less than ideal. And I’ve never really worried much about it. But I guess I’ve never done so when the other circumstances–month of the year, day of the week, time of day, weather conditions, etc.– so matched my traumatic incident. There was that identification with the past circumstances that made me, perhaps, over-react.
 
In this case, caution was obviously good, even if a bit over-the-top.
 
But, reflecting later on the occasion, I was also reminded of the teachings of my friend and mentor, Blair Singer, about the power of past experiences in influencing current behaviour. His teachings are more directed at overcoming negative influences of the past that prevent us from engaging the opportunities of the present. He calls it the “little voice syndrome.”
 
Blair maintains that we can do anything we dream possible if we are able to overcome the little voice inside our heads that keeps disparaging our ambitions. That little voice, the product of past criticisms, of failed efforts, of broken dreams, is extremely powerful in curtailing our ambitions. His course, Little Voice Mastery, teaches twenty tricks “to win the battle between your ears,” and overcome self-sabotaging habits.
 
This incident reminded me how powerful a single past experience can be in influencing current behaviour—for good or for bad.
 
I hope I’ll continue to be cautious next time I drive the Coquihalla—whether on a Sunday evening in February, or not.
 
And I hope I’ll keep learning from the little incidents in life that can affect me big time, whether for good or bad.
 
And I hope the little incidents will keep reminding me to work on “mastering the little voice.”
 
At least, that’s how I see it. . . .
 
Rent 2 Own tip
Getting ahead in almost anything in life depends a great deal on networking. And so does rent to own. Rent 2 own isn’t right for everyone; in fact, to be brutally honest, it’s only right for a thin strata of people, defined as those who can afford a mortgage but can’t yet qualify for one under current bank policies.
 
If you’re not in that group but know of someone who is, then a network can be formed. By referring that person or family to me, or me to them, we can all help each other out. My philosophy is, everyone who helps put a deal together should benefit. If you refer someone, not only will you be helping them get into a home, and helping me build my business, but you will also build your bank account, because I will pay you for a successful lead.
 
Rent 2 own is a win-win-win-win-win model (the client [obviously], me [obviously], the realtor who gets the sale, the mortgage broker who gets the mortgage commission, and the investor who finances the deal). You might as well make it six wins!

Quote of the Week:

Happiness is a choice, not a result. Nothing will make you happy until you choose to be happy. No person will make you happy unless you decide to be happy. Your happiness will not come to you. It can only come from you. – Ralph Marston