“I’m a winner!”
That’s what a friend said to me recently. No, he hadn’t just scored a big success. But he had a smart little quip to “prove” he was a winner. It was trivial, and every single human being could claim the same basis to prove they are a winner.
But that really was his point (I think, though I may be giving him more credit than is due). What I heard him say was that winning is an attitude.
That’s something I’ve come to believe, too. For years, I resisted the notion that you could influence your success by what you were allowing your brain to imagine about yourself. I attributed winning and losing to the forces, some of which you can control but many of which are beyond your control, working logically together to create an outcome. The very title of the number one success classic, Think and Grow Rich (Napoleon Hill), for example, repulsed me, implying, as it did, that success lies within your imagination.
I finally read the book out of pressure and because it had been recommended so many times by successful people who credited it for their own success. I chafed more than once as I read its content. But I could not deny its message.
So, last night, when I began listening to a self-improvement CD set called, “Little Voice Mastery,” by Blair Singer, whom I’ve heard live more than once and greatly admire, I was not surprised to hear him say that the key to success lies in those five inches between your ears. It’s about overcoming all the nagging internal voices that self-limit and self-sabotage your opportunities to be a winner.
He pointed out the little things that winning athletes do to overcome those nasty “little voice” doubts, and how crucial those efforts are to winning (http://www.blairsinger.com/little-voice-mastery/).
Steve Chandler, the guru of athlete motivators, put it this way: “You have to play to win! If you play not to lose, you will lose nine times out of ten.” It’s not just for athletes, though; it’s for all of us!
Last year I blogged about the folly of many New Year’s resolutions, and suggested incremental goals instead. (“Why I’m not making resolutions this year,” Jan 4, 2014. You can read that blog post here.) I pointed out that New Year’s resolutions, since they are usually broken quickly, will make us feel like failures, whereas reaching modest incremental goals, will make us feel like winners.
But this year, I’m committed to at least one resolution: To carry with me the attitude that, I am a winner. Will you join me in this resolution?
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Quote of the week:
If you want to find the real competition, look in the mirror.
After a while, you’ll see your rivals scrambling for second place.
– Criss Jami